It may be hard and aggravating , but continue to follow through and pick him up and set him back in the chair, no matter how many times he gets up. He will soon learn that he can't have fun or play until he does his time in his naughty chair lol. Hope this helps
Mom of 3 sons
expecting #4 in april 10

Consistency. Watch Supernanny. If he gets up, put him back, keep doing it until he stays and don't yell. You have to be patient and consistent, it's the only way he will learn and know you are serious with his punishment. It will be hard at first.

You can't MAKE him stay, just keep putting him back every time he gets up and restart the time. It could be a battle at first, but eventually he will relent. Patience and persistence=Parenting

possibly try a different form of punishment that he understands... maybe when hes bad and hotheaded consider sending him to a room that has nothing of interest in it... he can still move around, bang his head ... what ever, but ur not physically punishing him nor do you have to fight to keep him on a chair... call it the 'naughty room' ??? but it has to have no toys or entertainment... maybe a spare bedroom ? or the laundry room? maybe he will soon understand that if hes hotheaded he gets sent into solitary where he has to cool his jets before he is alowd to be back wiht the family? just an idea i guess... im not a mom, but have done lots of psyc research... not sure if it will work but could try? nothin to loose... if he freeks out let him freek till he calms down and then you can reasure him in a lovin manner that its not ok to be angry,,,,

The best thing you can do is to keep putting him back in the chair, telling him to remain in the chair the first 2 times you have to put him back and afterward, just put him there without speaking to him. It will be repetitive and annoying and you will want to give in, but believe me, if a child manipulates and gets away with it or is disobediant and gets away with it, they will come at trying to get out of something stronger the next time figuring mom will give in, eventually, she did last time.

The best thing you can do when children are being disobediant is the time out. But, for kids who wont stay put, you have to reinforce your decision. The first 5-6 times they go to time out you will probably have to put them back in, but if you keep consistant, they will get the picture and eventually will stay in time out by themselves without having to be forced back. And, ignore the crys, as this will happen.

You give the child 1 min. for every year in age. That way they get the point without getting bored to the point that they act out because they dont see the light at the end of the tunnel.

When you allow the child up from time out, remember to reinforce positive energy (if they stayed there by themselves without being repositioned) with 'I appreciate you staying in time out like a big boy, maybe next time you will rethink x,y,z, so you wont need time out again'.

PS: If you are... dont be too directive with the chair... if they sloutch etc. while in the chair, dont make them sit up straight etc. because the fact that they are there and staying is encouragement that you are getting the point across.

Not legally or humanely!

Ever watch Supernanny? She has a lot of great tips.

I think standing in a corner might work better than trying to get a pre-schooler to sit. I used to try the naughty chair thing with my niece, but the corner worked better.

Good luck!

You can't really make him stay in the chair, but you can make him regret his decision to get out. Put him in time out and tell him how long you expect him to stay there (usually 5-10 minutes is enough time) and that if he gets out he will get punished. If he gets out, spank his bare little bottom, put him back in the chair and start the time over. Be consistent, he will get the idea, and quick.

If he's getting mad and flying off the handle give him a bit of space to get his feelings out but sit somewhere where he can see you or do a job but in the same room and now and again let him know you care by giving him a nod or a smile.When he shows signs of calming try to validate his feelings.Try saying "you were really mad when you couldn't tie your laces yourself weren't you?"Or whatever suits the situation and give him a heartfelt hug.Don't pin him to a chair or call him bad no child deserves that.

i'm having that same issue...

How old is your preschooler? I would suggest not getting a chair that will restrain him. Holding a child in place often makes the situation worse. It causes the child to fight against the discipline, and become more upset.

I would suggest trying a time out again(no restraining, he should stay put b/c you tell him). Remember no eye contact, just put him on the spot and walk away, if he gets up just continue to put him back. As a nanny I have noticed that many parents do not do the technique correctly and therefore do not get the desired results. In my years of experience I have never seen time out fail with any child(no matter how strong willed), if done correctly.

Step 1: You need to pick a timeout spot away from anything that can be thrown, broken, etc. Use the stairs, a living room chair, etc. When he begins a tantrum give him a warning that if he continues to behave the way he is, than he will get a time out. A warning is essential for the technique, as it give the child a chance to self correct their own behavior.

Step 2: When he continues misbehaving, pick him up and place him in timeout. Get down on his level and tell him why he is in timeout. Keep the explanation short and sweet, he may be yelling and crying/laughing so he doesn't have to answer you and most likely will not even acknowledge what you said(that is fine since at this point in the timeout it is not important). Even if it feels as if he didn't hear a word you said, just walk away.

Step 3: The first time you try and lay down the law he will resist. This means that he will get up, throw things(since this may get him attention), yell, hit you, etc. After you put him in time out, do not hover, just walk away(stay out of sight). Staying and standing over a child keeps the conflict going and allows the child to get more attention from you. When he gets up walk calmly back over to where he is(remember not to give eye contact, look over his head, at his shirt, etc. Do not talk to him or acknowledge that he is doing something wrong), pick him up(allow him to kick, yell, etc without saying anything), and place him back in timeout. Walk away. Expect him to get back up again, repeat the same thing as above. The key to this is to avoid eye contact and conversation. He is getting up b/c he wants attention and is testing your limits. If he is going to throw something, do not say anything(no eye contact), if you are close enough walk over and calmly take it, if he gets the chance to throw it, ignore that and put him back in time out.

It is very likely that the first time will take you an hour or so, since he is so used to getting his way. If you do not break, it will get less and less each time, until he eventually sits on the spot without getting up. You need to show him that you will not give in, even giving in once during the timeout(any eye contact, interaction, talking, loosing your temper, or letting him out of timeout early) will teach him that he only has to scream and resist for so long before you give in.


**Top Timeout Mistakes**
>Hovering or holding the child in the timeout spot. Just walk away, stay out of sight of the child so they do not continue to scream for your attention. Your child should listen to you b/c you are the parent, not b/c you are physically stronger and can hold them in place. Hovering causes conflict b/c the child is going to continue to misbehave, in order to get your attention, or some type of reaction.

>>Forgetting the warning. "If you do ______, then you will get a time out", "If you don't stop screaming you will get a timeout.", etc. The warning is one of the more important parts, as it gives a child a chance to self correct, and regulate their own behavior. After you have been successful with timeout, and your child knows you are serious, it often only takes a warning for the undesirable behavior to stop.

>>Giving eye contact after placement on the step. Children throw tantrums for attention. All behavior serves a purpose, and the purpose of a tantrum is attention. If you stop the attention, there is not reason for the behavior.

>>>Giving up after a few time of the child getting up. Children are going to test boundaries. Parents do not realize that the first time out(when doing it right), will take an hour or more. Reshaping behavior takes time and effort. Too many parents give up, which teaches the child that their tantrum is effective in getting them what they want. The first timeout may take an hour, but it will get less and less when the child realizes that getting up is pointless b/c they just get put back without any attention.

Step 4:
After he has stayed in timeout for time(1 min per year of age, ie- 4 year old gets 4 min), you walk over to him and tell him why he was in timeout, tell him to apologize and give him a hug and kiss.

do not restrain him - he has to learn that he has to restraint himself at times and follow what he's told.. instead of punishing, use the removal methods - if he doesn't comply, take away things that he likes.. it's more effective this way..
until then all i can do is give you a (((hug))) and tell you that parenting is a wonderful thing :)

You can use any chair and when he gets up pick him right back up and sit him back in it. Keep doing it until he sits the whole time without getting up. It took me an hour the first time I put my son on time out but he finally realized that I meant it and he needed to listen to me.